Friday, October 18, 2013
This blog is a follow up on:
In this blog I would like to now start taking a look at the time line of events that lead up to the existence of porn user, distributor and the porn star. I will be investigating the various dimensions that lead up to why such an industry exist that has millions of people addicted daily, while at the same time existing due to an undercurrent of rationalisation and justifications by most of humanity – where pornography is seen as acceptable and an sexual outlet that is ok, even though the effects of it on both user and porn star is anything but ‘ok’. So by walking the time line of the life events behind why such an industry exists, together with the societal justifications behind why it ok for us to continue allowing pornography as a sexual outlet – we will be able to come face to face with who we have become as society, as the human beings that rationalise through thinking an industry like pornography into ‘existence’.
As I mentioned in my previous blog, we have drawn a line between child pornography as being ‘wrong’ but rationalise adult pornography as being acceptable. Then most do not bother to do the research about the real effects of pornography on both the user and the porn star and nobody bothers to research the assumptions and myths behind things like ‘porn stars must enjoy it’ and ‘but why can I not use it if I pay for it’. These rationalisations would not be used if we were talking about handing guns to children and would most certainly not be used if 50 years down the line we sold our wives and children into servitude to become porn stars.The fact that this already exists, but is more masked and hidden – does not fall into any category worth investigating – why – well lets be frank – what I have noted about myself and what I have experienced as I came face to face with letting go of and really looking at the effects of my addictions on the world and myself – is that as long as I did not see the harm it was causing – I really did not care. So as I say, for now woman are selling themselves into pornography either to survive in this monetary system or because they have been brainwashed by society and their peers/parents – to believe that abusing sexuality is actually a plus – where if you are really pushing your physical boundaries then it means you are a free spirit who is not limited by the religious and cultural limitations of the rest of society. So pushing oneself to really harm your physical body sexually is seen as a positive thing when it comes to pornography and in fact from my experience writing and speaking about this subject – the reactions from mostly males when mentioning these strange mind rationalisations – is to be attacked and told that I am frigid and lesbian and wont allow myself pleasure.
So lets start at one point here – discussing the female mind set around the ‘achievement accomplished’ to turn oneself into a porn star. How does a girl/woman grow up to believe that to become a porn start is actually you expressing your sexuality freely? This reminds me of the type of language that is taught by a pedophile to a young child – where the pedophile has one thing in mind and that is to mold the mind set of the young child into his sex slave – therefore as research shows the pedophile will use compliments, comparisons to female and male adult roles and threats to control and subdue a child into the role desires by the pedophile.
So take a young woman growing up, existing as a physical body –and then she reaches an age where she starts noticing glamorous pictures of half naked woman in magazines, movies and billboards. Those who are closest to her such as her mother and sisters' support this image directed identity, by encouraging her to create a personal identity linked within that which she sees around her. Specific words are used by the mother/sisters/peers to encourage the young girl to start accepting herself as not just female but a companion to a male – and this opens a who can of worms where the mother will imprint on the young girl the same journey she walked into molding herself into a sexualised object for the males. I remember growing up I was told to wash my hair and to start wearing make up and nice clothes etc – to become a nice lady so that one day I will find a man. So every step of the woman's process of growing up becomes about the picture perfect presentation to finding your mate – the make up the hair, the body, the mannerisms. All of ones existence becomes about fulfilling a role to please the male who will pick you to be his mate. Therefore woman plaster make up on their faces to present a fake picture that will match the pictures seen by people in magazines/movies – so that by doing so the woman creates an identity for herself by linking her image to the already desired images on tv/magazines..
To be continued
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Tuesday, October 1, 2013
I was doing some research for the next series that I will be doing on Pornography and I came across this post:
a make up artist who posted pictures of porn stars on a blog with and without make-up – too I am assuming, show and reveal the ‘bare truth’ of these woman as what they really looks like. After that many porn stars sent her pictures of themselves with and without make-up to add to her slide show. So, I asked myself what is the statement that this woman is making – which will bring me to the introduction of why I am walking this porn series – where I will be peeling the layers of the porn-onion so to speak to get beyond the accepted repetitive lines of acceptance such as ‘but surely porn starts enjoy it’ and ‘why is it so wrong if they are getting paid’ – to get to the truth, not the made up societal truth that is used to justify an industry like porn – I am saying the actuality behind why and how human beings become porn stars, as an industry that abuses the physical body for profit.
So the author gave the reason for her blog post as initially just being that of ‘showing the world what these woman really look like’. This in itself caught my interest, as I wondered if this meant that woman could start considering the role that they play in misrepresenting the female form into a sexualised pictures, which is then sold for profit, as the image of a woman is then only seen as a picture – the physical body is equated to that which fits a picture and that which makes others money. Therefore the porn industry has become a first class example of how we will allow abuse to develop into a profitable system, and where the rest of society confirms and justified why such a form of abuse is allowed to exists, because it has become an acceptable form of expression for woman to misrepresent themselves, to fit a fake picture, to stimulate sex addiction in others, while feeding a system of greed. I mean, if I compare child pornography with normal pornography – all that I see is the stamping of morality onto the one picture which the other does not get. We have decided that child porn is wrong and goes against the values of life, but it is ok to brainwash generations of woman, into thinking and believing that to be a porn start is a cool way to express your sexuality. The fact that pornography has nothing to do with how the physical body has sex and the fact that woman become porn starts to make money to better than lives and the fact that the rest of the woman who ‘decide’ to become porn starts are doing to please the male ego into giving them attention and fitting into a warped sense of power linked to your sexual virility – none of these aspects – of which I have only mentioned a few – are ever spoken about.
You could say that we have never looked inside the mind of woman who is either forced into porn due to economic reasons or choses to do so for ‘sexual enjoyment’ where the physical body is harmed to fulfil this unrealistic expectation created in the mind through dominating and the creation of pain and harm. No time line is ever walked to show how and why porn exists in our society. Interesting to note, that as a physician for example – if you do not study the human anatomy and physiology specifically and with care – then you are not able to prescribe medicine, do surgery and understand how the body functions in relation to the current understanding of illness and dis-ease. Doctors and surgeons /health care professionals/ study for years and are tested to the most specific detail in their understanding of their medical field. Yet – we as human beings who observe glimpses into a world where abuse exist in ever increasing ways, all complain that the abuse if unacceptable and yet when it comes time to studying the abuse to its specific details and time line creations – then all of a sudden humans proclaim to not have a clue and also claim that it is unnecessary to investigate how and why we have designed any form of abuse, which obviously will allow and insists upon us taking self responsibility for the designs.
So in answer to my question whether the author grasped even for a moment that who these woman are under all the make up – is not that picture, while supporting an industry that only seeks perfect pictures and perfect energy experiences which are linked to energy addictions e.g pornography while completely disregarding ourselves in our physical bodies. But her response was the truth behind the brainwashing of even this individual who for a moment allowed herself to ‘get real’. A moment later she reveals that she could not really face the actuality of reality as it existed as the real physical body. She explains towards the end of her blog that she sees these actresses and actors arrive for work with low self esteem and as soon as they put on their make-up they become ‘a different person’.
So the reason why I mentioned her discussion on make-up and low self esteem, is because it serves as an introduction into the following series – where as I mentioned I want to peel the layers of the ‘porn industry’, to really look beneath the veil of what goes on inside the mind of the porn star and porn user, together with the economic factors contributing to the existence of a porn industry…
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